Creators and Guests
Host
Charlie Ocean, MSW
Pronouns: they/them. Neuroqueer LGBTQ+ speaker, trainer, consultant, podcaster, writer...
Appears in
74
episodes
Guest
Andrew Lear
There are quite a number of LGBT resistance heroes in Nazi Europe. And it really, it’s just kind of an interesting door to open. You find all these unbelievably courageous people fighting for themselves and others in this terrifying circumstance.
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1
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Guest
Ashabi Owagboriaye
“And for me personally, I will not entertain a romance or sexual interest that does not uplift me the same way my friends do. And that is my bare minimum and that should be everyone’s bare minimum because your friends are the ones that care for you, they hold you, they love you, they support you, they tell you what it is immediately.”
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Guest
Candace Rucker
"Whenever I thought of being Black in America, it made me really, really angry, and I didn’t understand why until I realized that a lot of the history that I had learned was of our suffering and of our hardships and not really of our successes."
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1
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Guest
Charlie Ocean
There was also this distinct moment, I was sitting at the foot of the bed one day, and I must have been either late in elementary school or early in middle school, and I remember thinking very innocently and sweetly, do I want a boy voice or a girl voice?
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1
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Cielo Sunsarae
"But then when I finally solidified that I do want top surgery, that was after I started to immerse myself more. And trying to find people who really looked like me, who were fat, Black, and trans, and nonbinary as well because I also fluctuated between, like, going flat completely or not flat. And it wasn’t until I knew there were people like me, and they loved their body. It wasn’t just a white thing that was going on. I knew that I wanted to do it for sure. And I also wanted to be that representation that I lacked."
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1
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Dr. Trisha Wallis
“It’s so weird to hear my identities repeated back because I’m like, ‘Oh, is that what it is today?’”
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Guest
Ed Carratalà
“But then a couple days later, I called her [boss] back and was like, ‘Wait a minute. No. That’s not okay because this is my experience, and I cannot separate my own experience from what I’m sharing because it’s part of myself. And it’s part of what makes me a good professor, the way that I show up as myself, not as this book.’”
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2
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Guest
Jack Lam
"A big part of my depression in my teen years was due to the shame that I felt like if I were to ever come out or be open about my sexuality, that it would bring so much shame to my parents. That was the first concern I had. I remember thinking the most important thing is to save face for my family. And if I were to do this, it would crush my parents."
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1
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Guest
Lena Dirscherl
"But the next time we met, nothing was different and she didn’t say anything. It was just normal. She didn’t even have to say, ‘oh, you guys are so nice to each other,’ or ‘you’re so sweet to each other,’ or ‘that’s cute’ or whatever. She just acted like it’s the most normal thing in the world. And I think sometimes that’s what you need. It’s nice to get approval or to get positive feedback, but sometimes it’s even nicer when you feel like it’s just normal." — Lena, on a friend's reaction to them sharing about their polyamorous relationship
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2
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Guest
Mark S. King
What is not as well documented is how we as a community rose up. How we as a community decided that in the face of no medications, no science, no compassion, we decided to turn that inward and have compassion for one another. In the absence of food programs, we loaded up the trunks of our cars with food. In the absence of housing programs, we pitched in to pay people’s rent. You know, we, we just did it.
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1
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MJ Jupitus
"I feel like if you can laugh whilst you’re working out, that’s one of the ultimate expressions of ‘Fuck you’ to the fitness industry. Because, again, so much of it is so serious, and you got to take this seriously, and you got to like put your head down and be having a bad time. And I’m like, I love to make my clients belly laugh. Laughing with my clients is one of my greatest joys, and they know that, like, that is an aspect of working with me."
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Patrick Ladonis
Where the misalignment came from, because DEI is not just a buzzword, is I think people were looking for a quick fix. Or ‘let’s throw all this money to it, and I’m sure we’ll be able to fix.’- Well, the failure of DEI and its being woven into the blueprinted infrastructure of organizations is that it’s a forever commitment. It’s not just, oh, it’s not like a product you create, and you can have it on the shelves in 6 months. It’s something that you have to- once you start to implement it, it is something that you have to practice and continue for the- the longevity of the company.
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1
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Rebecca Kling
"Bodies are different. We're all on a bell curve. Those bell curves overlap a lot more than they don't, and the range of what it means to be a man or a woman is huge. A man being shorter than a woman doesn't mean that they're both not really that gender. A woman being taller than a man doesn't mean they're both not really that gender."
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Guest
Sarah Gilbert
"I have always been really struck by both Freddie (Mercury) and... David Bowie’s just presence of just being totally themselves, gender-bending, not conventional, not fitting in any boxes, and yet being totally powerful and amazing and impactful humans. I’ve always been really drawn to that... I’m in such awe that somebody can embody that much confidence and self-assuredness... I’ve always wanted to achieve more of that—allowing the fullest expression of myself rather than fitting into a box of what was expected of me or what feels safe or comfortable."
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Shane Whalley
"It is hard to live in a place where every day when you turn on your TV or your radio or you look online, you’re hearing hateful untruths, right? Like, all the time."
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3
episodes
Guest
Tiffany Rossdale
It would have been nice if they asked me in a separate room and the head of the clinic or the doctor would have spoken to me properly, telling me all this rather than humiliate me in the public where everyone’s still there, right?
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1
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Tonya
"I love queer because there’s room for me to discover new things about myself. It’s a blanket term, and I currently identify as bisexual also, but it feels like maybe that will change someday. And it just feels better even sometimes to just use the term queer and not even include nonbinary because, you know, I just started exploring my gender in the last probably 3 to 5 years. And who knows how things will change with that, too? Nonbinary, for me, is- it’s an internal alignment."
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Zoa Starlight Glows
"Sometimes it’s scary. Or even me wearing the clothes that I want to wear and wearing makeup and having long nails. It feels like what if one day they’re just like, ‘Oh, yeah, we don’t want to have you here. We don’t want to see you.’ Like, I don’t know. It’s just scary being trans and nonbinary in the workplace... And hopefully good jobs come, and hopefully there’s jobs that are affirming, but we just never know."
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4
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