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67 conversations and counting, with LGBTQ+ community members across a wide range of lived experiences and backgrounds. Each guest shares their story and a practical allyship tip, and some come back to update us on where their journeys have taken them. Most episodes include a full transcript.
Season 3
S3 E21 The Gender Swap feat. Molly Rix
The giveaway is over, but you can still head to the merch shop ! This week, Molly Rix (she/her) steps out from behind the scenes as our audio enginee…
S3 E20 Ed Carratalà is the infiltrated bisexual
Podcast merch !!! Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyooooond!). This week, Ed Carratalà (he/him/él) updates us on t…
S3 E19 Trisha Wallis isn't recruiting anything except for people to stay alive
Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyoooond!). Bring Allyship Is a Verb to your workplace at a special rate. This week,…
S3 E18 The Magic of LGBTQ+ Summer Camps feat. Rebecca Kling (Replay)
Please note: This is another replay due to a super busy past few weeks. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. All replay…
S3 E17 I'm just, like, a little dude feat. Ashabi Owagboriaye
Take the Ace Flag Revision Survey This week, Ashabi Owagboriaye (she/they) shares the meaning behind the white stripe in the ace flag and why she’s l…
S3 E16 So, you are queer feat. Sarah Gilbert
Sign up for the AIAV newsletter ! This week, Sarah Gilbert (she/her) shares the story of how a random question Charlie asked a few years ago sparke…
S3 E15 Listen to minorities and thank them feat. Ra Ra Rollins (Replay)
Please note: This is another replay to help with my mental health break. A new episode is coming on Tuesday, March 26th. Thanks for your continued pa…
S3 E14 Do you check in on your relationships? feat. Trystan Reese (Replay)
Check out the wearable merch! You can also help me close the gap on my $757 goal. I'm 76% of the way there at the time of writing this! Please no…
S3 E13 Candace Rucker on being angry and eloquent
Check out the wearable merch ! This week, Candace Rucker (she/her) challenges the thought that we are only one type of ally, advocate, or activist— i…
S3 E12 Cielo Sunsarae on how harmful articles turned into nonprofit donations and partnerships
☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragement This week, Cielo Sunsarae (they/he) shares how harmfu…
S3 E10 Exploring LGBTQ+ history feat. Andrew Lear
📺 Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨ ☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various L…
S3 E11 I'm glad you're here feat. Shane Whalley
🗳️ Voting for 'Allyship Is a Verb' in the Sonic Bloom Awards People's Choice category has ended. Thanks to everyone who helped out! ☎️ Call th…
S3 E9 Queering weddings and gender expression feat. Tonya
📺 Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨ ☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmat…
S3 E8 From code switching to House Hunters feat. Patrick Ladonis
Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨ This week, Patrick Ladonis (he/him) shares how he shifted from fear to…
S3 E7 How to mess up a health checkup feat. Tiffany Rossdale
This week, Tiffany Rossdale (she/her) shares about being a transgender woman and transformational life coach who emigrated from Manila, Philippines,…
S3 E6 WAIT, why am I talking? feat. Mark S. King
This week, Mark S. King (he/him) shares how the landscape of HIV/AIDS has changed over the years since the AIDS crisis of the 80s and what it's been…
S3 E5 Turning 36: A special birthday episode feat. Charlie Ocean
This week, Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them) , is interviewed by various friends to celebrate turning 36 on September 17th, 2023! 🥳 In this episode, yo…
S3 E4 Being trans and nonbinary in the workplace feat. Zoa Glows
This week, Zoa Glows (they/she) returns from the first season to share how they navigate the workplace as a trans and nonbinary person, and what they…
S3 E3 Embracing softness in a capitalist hellscape feat. MJ Jupitus
This week, MJ Jupitus (they/them) shares about how they navigate language as a nonbinary person, including being their wife's wife, but not their par…
S3 E2 Living authentically and forging family harmony feat. Jack Lam
This week, Jack Lam (they/them) discusses how being a Malaysian Chinese immigrant has impacted them, including struggling to release shame and fear s…
S3 E1 What should LGBTQ+ flags look like? feat. Lena Dirscherl
To kick off season three, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) returns to discuss the value of having recognizable LGBTQ+ flags with intentional design. In thi…
Season 2
S2 E25 You go, Indiegogo!
You go, Indiegogo! Season three is around the corner, and we have a quick announcement... we've launched an Indiegogo campaign with some sweet perks!…
S2 E24 The History of Black HIV in the South with hosts Anna DeShawn and Duane Cramer
Hopefully a future Allyship Is a Verb guest, Anna DeShawn (she/her), created a mini-series called Black HIV in the South: How Did We Get Here? This i…
S2 E23 Disco Fever: How Music Fueled a Cultural Revolution by Closeted History
Former Allyship Is a Verb guest, Destiny Clarke (she/they), has a podcast called Closeted History: LGBTQ+ Stories of the Past. This is Season 2, Epis…
S2 E22 Queer, Trans, And Gender Expansive Joy In The Workplace feat. Rex Wilde
This event aired live on June 2nd, 2023, via LinkedIn, and has been edited for brevity. To sign up for Rex's roundtable event, visit https://www.rexw…
S2 E21 The Magic of LGBTQ+ Summer Camps feat. Rebecca Kling
Consider the relevance of someone's identity. This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where the…
S2 E20 The costs of religious trauma feat. Christina Carlson
Sign up for Sam's workshop, Understanding the Basics of Neurodiversity and the Neurodiversity Movement . Happening virtually on Thursday, May 11th or…
S2 E19 What is T4T? feat. Maze Felix
Want to book Charlie for Pride month and beyond? Check out their offerings here . This week, Maze Felix (they/them) talks about the beauty of T4T (tr…
S2 E18 Have you worked through your own trauma? feat. Shaan Dasani
This week, Shaan Dasani (he/they) talks about creating Agents of Change and what it means to have an all-queer and trans cast! In this episode, you w…
S2 E17 One woman's late in life lesbian story feat. Kathy Houston
RSVP to Celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV) RSVP to Connecting With Community: How to Build an Online Audience for your LGBTQ-owned Busine…
S2 E16 How do you talk about someone with no pronouns? feat. Lianna Newman
This week, Lianna Newman (name only) expands on carving out space in STEM, finding community, and creating resources. In this episode, you will learn…
S2 E15 Exploring the kink spectrum and community feat. Wesley Toma
Exploring the kink spectrum and community! This week, Wesley Toma (he/him) expands on how kink is a spectrum, and for those who fall on it, it's very…
S2 E14 Get clear on what you're willing to lose feat. Rebecca Minor
Check out Rebecca's parent coaching . We were nominated for Best Personal Growth and Best DIY for The Ambies! Thank you to those who watched live on…
S2 E13 The best apology is changed behavior feat. Kieran Mcmonagle
This week, Kieran Mcmonagle (he/him) expands on how he's learned so much from young people in the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1…
S2 E12 Turning mistakes into teachable moments feat. Ed Carratalà
Grab podcast merch here: https://www.bonfire.com/store/allyship-is-a-verb/ This week, Ed Carratalà (él/he/him) expands on how he spent 33 years of hi…
S2 E11 Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca Minor
This event aired live on December 4th, 2022, and has been cut for clarity. "Are You OK?" documents the experiences and stories of 130+ trans and nonb…
S2 E10 Sex and gender are made-up concepts (like everything else) feat. Lena Dirscherl
This week, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) expands on some of the many factors that influence gender. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What our thought…
S2 E9 Bonus Episode: Check in on your LGBTQ+ friends and family
In the wake of the most recent tragedy yesterday (November 19th, 2022) at Club Q, an LGBTQ+ nightclub in Colorado Springs, CO, I am publishing a form…
S2 E8 Cassie Brighter on the hidden costs of being transgender, TSA PreCheck, and "the surgery"
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca M…
S2 E7 Cody Daigle-Orians on being ace, queer, and polyamorous
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca…
S2 E6 Give people and situations grace feat. Mister Larrie
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! In this week's episode, Mister Larrie (he/him) and I get SILLY! It starts off with him enc…
S2 E5 The Patriarchy Episode feat. Petey Gibson
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Content warning for LGBTQ+ youth discrimination, suicide statistics. In this week's episod…
S2 E4 Why do some people use two sets of pronouns? feat. Josée Sovinsky
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Did you miss the launch party for the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? You can watch the…
S2 E3 Anger and fury can be turned into action that can create change feat. Jesse Freidin
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Interested in the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? Watch the recorded launch party on Lin…
S2 E2 Listen to minorities and thank them feat. Ra Ra Rollins
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics witho…
S2 E1 Don't forget to live a queer, abundant life and laugh feat. Richard Follett
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her parent and caregiver coaching, please visit: https://www.…
Season 1
S1 E27 Special Video Episode: Trans Day of Visibility Nonbinary Panel! feat. Zoa Glows, Maze Felix, and Noel Fernando
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www…
S1 E26 Experiencing "Bless Your Heart" Homophobia in the South feat. Destiny Clarke
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www…
S1 E25 Stealth Mode Activated: Living as a Trans Man in Private feat. Dominic
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visi…
S1 E24 Everywhere is Queer: Mapping Our Vibrant Businesses feat. Charlie Sprinkman
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visi…
S1 E23 Conversation Checkpoint: The Role of a Safety Pause feat. K Strohl
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www…
S1 E22 You're Not Like Those Other Black People: Confronting Othering feat. Nick Daily
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, p…
S1 E21 Unplugging from the Matrix: Finding Freedom as Trans feat. Trystan Reese
In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. L…
S1 E20 Your Clothes Are Gay: Well, of Course. It's Because I'm Queer feat. Mon Malanovich-Gallagher
In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience…
S1 E19 Happy Hour Culture: Confronting Alcohol in LGBTQ+ Spaces feat. Chris Tompkins
In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found…
S1 E18 U-Hauling Flannel Hearts: Examining Lesbian Stereotypes feat. Jaffe
In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "qu…
S1 E17 You Can Never Trust Them: Confronting Bi Stereotypes feat. Dr. Leah Tidey
In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of…
S1 E16 Fat Liberation vs. Glittery Body Positivity feat. Provvidenza Catalano
In this week’s episode, Provvidenza Catalano (they/them) shares about how the closer they get to who they are versus how Hollywood typecasts folks, t…
S1 E15 Reparenting Myself: Exploring Gender as an Adult feat. Dr. Kyl Myers
In this week’s episode, Dr. Kyl Myers (they/them, she/her) shares how their gender creative parenting has evolved over the years and that it can look…
S1 E14 Coming Out as Trans: When HR Takes That Decision Away feat. Leo Yockey
In this week’s episode, Leo Yockey (he/him) shares how his first tech job denied him the opportunity to control his narrative. Learn what surprised h…
S1 E13 From Ohio to NYC: Connecting with Queer Community feat. Laura Graving
In this week’s episode, Laura Graving (she/her) shares about how there are tarot decks that are queer and trans-inclusive. Learn what support she off…
S1 E12 Is your therapist the right fit for you?
Is your therapist the right fit for you? Do you even want or have access to one? In the previous episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shared out th…
S1 E11 She-Ra vs. Barbie: The Butch Compromise feat. Dr. Rick Grant-Coons
In this week’s episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shares about moving 13 times every 1-3 years in the south as a young person and how, in some wa…
S1 E10 Is your allyship accidentally performative?
Is your allyship accidentally performative? In the previous episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/them, she/her) shared out the allyship tip "Honestly,…
S1 E9 Agender in a Gendered World: Challenging Norms feat. Tasha Colin
In this week’s episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/she) shares about coming out as a previously held identity and what three magic words of support bo…
S1 E8 Can we agree to stop assuming straight is the default?
Can we agree to stop assuming straight is the default? In the previous episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/her) shared out the allyship tip for people to ".…
S1 E7 Bi & Committed: Debunking Relationship Myths feat. Josée Sovinsky
In this week’s episode, Josée Sovinsky (now using she/they pronouns) shares about coming out on her professional Instagram page this past pride month…
S1 E6 What are rolling pronouns? Are there questions you shouldn't ask trans people?
What are rolling pronouns? Are there questions you shouldn't ask trans people? In the previous episode, Zoa Glows (rolling she/her, they/them, he/him…
S1 E5 High School Students as Unexpected Mirrors feat. Zoa Glows
In this week’s episode, Zoa Starlight Glows (Zoa now uses they/she pronouns) shares about coming out to her students and family. Learn about what mes…
S1 E4 Calling in conversations and tips for bridging generations
Are you open to a conversation? In the previous episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shared out her allyship tip: "What's important is the story. And…
S1 E3 Surviving Through Laughter: LGBTQ+ Humor as Resilience feat. Coco Peru
In this week’s episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shares her history with self-identifying and how she's still seeking inspirational + affirming la…
S1 E2 Sorry Not Sorry: When Apologies Fall Flat for Queer Folks (And 3 Tools to Fix It)
In the previous episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shared out hir allyship tip: "I think being a good ally, is the willingness to be uncomfortable. If y…
S1 E1 From Gender Gray to Genderqueer: Navigating Evolving Language feat. Shane Whalley
In this week’s episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shares a bit about hir history of language and community. Learn about the differences between cultural…
S1 E1 Season 1 Trailer
It's not too late to start your allyship practice or continue to make adjustments. This show talks about LGBTQ+ allyship tips and passing the mic. Ep…